The Life and Times of a Wallflower | Freshmen Chronicles
Picture yourself at the last party you went to. Most of the attention was on the bro who’s owning at beer pong or the girls who are one drink away from taking their tops off, right? You may not realize, but standing close by are a select group of people who can slip their way in and out of parties, having a good time while avoiding the spotlight. These individuals are better known as wallflowers. For those of you who haven’t read the high school standard The Perks of Being A Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky, a loose definition of a wallflower is someone who is often on the sidelines of parties, seemingly shy, but very observant. Since they aren’t involved in any of the crazy stuff happening that night, they are extremely observant and notice pretty much everything about everyone.
Some might argue that going to a party and not doing something outrageous defeats the purpose of a party. However, a wallflower has the ability to observe everything that’s going on and might partake in some of the night’s festivities if they feel comfortable. More times than not, if your friend has any wallflower characteristics, they will probably end up as the “mom” of the evening. This means that after you run around trying to convince everyone you sing better than Katy Perry with a bottle of Absolut as your microphone, the wallflower of your friend group will be the one to make sure you get your drunk ass back to your bed safely.
However, the single best characteristic of a wallflower lies in their ability to observe. You might be too preoccupied setting up your fifth round of beer pong to realize that the kid who sat behind you in the lecture hall last night just spilled his drink on someone’s open laptop and walked away after realizing nobody had seen it. Surprise, buddy, the wallflower saw everything! At breakfast the next morning, the wallflower will also be the one who can confirm or deny who really drank as much as they said they did; if someone is complaining of the worst hangover they’ve had in their whole life and the wallflower is rolling their eyes, you know that person is stretching the truth. The wallflower’s superpower of knowing what really happened isn’t something they’ll spread around and gossip about, but they’re able to see how you really party vs. how you announce to facebook how trashed you were.
Personally, I feel as if I identify as a wallflower. As an incoming freshman to Syracuse University, I can’t say I’ve partied as hard as my fellow classmates claim to have during high school. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my fair share of weed and alcohol over the past four years, but I’m much more adept to just observing and making sure my friends get home alright. Now that I’m headed to a totally different environment at college, I can’t imagine my habits staying the same. I want to break out of my shell a little bit and have fun while still avoiding a bad rap, you know? Being the wallflower is nice at times, but hopefully this year I’ll be able to stop standing on the sidelines so much and balance my wallflower side with the party kid I know is dying to come out.