Alcohol & Attitude: What Really Makes Us Attractive at Parties

While most of us think it’s our appearance that matters most about scoring a one night stand with someone from a party, I have found that this is not really an accurate statement. After attending several parties throughout college, I have come to realize it has very little to do with how you look, and a lot more to do with how much people drink and act.

It is actually more common than not, for me, to see either two average-looking people hook up or one attractive and one less-than-attractive person hook up than it is for me to witness two very hot people hook up. This is when I started to realize it has more to do with your attitude. I’ve noticed, in particular, that girls who are dressed well and are physically attractive but have bad attitudes usually end up not having such a good time. They’re often standing in the corner with their arms crossed, checking their phones and whispering to their friends, then leaving shortly after a few hours of attending a party.

In comparison, I’ve seen girls dressed in sweats and t-shirts have a whole lot of fun at parties and get a lot of compliments and attention from guys. The reason being, girls who are having fun give off a positive vibe that becomes more attractive to not just guys, but everyone at the party. People gravitate towards this positive energy brought about by people who are really just there to have a good time, not to impress anyone or try hard to look attractive.

But at the same time, it isn’t just attitude that will seal the deal 100%. Alcohol also plays a big factor in this mission because it lowers inhibitions (as we all probably know). I would say that the drunker you are, the more attractive other people become, and while this isn’t a fact it sure seems to hold up pretty well with my experience. This is probably why all the frat guys give free drinks to girls while limiting or even hiding their supply from any male guests that are able to trickle through the door.

And so, if you’re looking for a one night stand, I recommend two things: a positive go-hard attitude, and alcohol. Whoever you are, male or female, a good attitude that focuses more on having a good time than looking for a sex partner automatically gives off good vibes to everyone, and more importantly, deflects any potential signs of “being creepy.” On the other hand, alcohol plays a large part making everyone more loveable and “easy.” Always remember to be careful about having sex with people who are too gone because that could get you in a sticky mess you don’t want to be in!