Life. What is it exactly? Were we put on God’s green Earth to simply reproduce and do work? I am of the few who believe that humans have a higher purpose than to work low end jobs and take care of children they can barely support.
Work is important to life— as well as effort, struggle and strife. However, these things aren’t ALL that life is about (thank Yeezus). The most successful people in the world don’t work hard (or have enough luck to account for the work) to have to continually work hard. The whole premise of working hard is so one day you won’t have to. That work you put in will only make rest and relaxation that much easier for you when you decide to kick your feet up.
I’m not saying don’t work—but don’t allow work to consume you. As the old adage goes, make the money and don’t let it make you. You should be the controlling force of your life; if you allow money to control you, are you really living?
College is now a way to filter really successful people from those who will not be. And by filter, I’m also taking about students. Just because you are in college, there isn’t a guarantee that you will be selected for the great job with benefits. The college filter sifts out the students who aren’t involved or fail to acquire relevant work experience. At this point in the US education system, it would be a more wise decision to forgo college altogether if you aren’t going to be active. College enrollment rates are at an all time high and students will be competing against peers AND those already embedded in the work force.
So yes, working hard in school is important. However, a good student is one who is happy and positive. A student will not be content for long if he is constantly doing busy work— I mean, homework.
My advice to you for the sake of your happiness: Go party.
You are young, able-bodied and your generation lives by the motto “YOLO.” College isn’t just about getting a diploma and becoming an adult. It is also an opportunity to make social memories. The type of memories you will look back to when you are 44 years old, with three bad ass kids and a wife who hates you. I remember back when I was in elementary school, I asked a teacher what was the most fun part of her life and she said college—easily. Now that my time as a member of the collegiate universe is winding down, I’m looking back on my years in college and I’m starting to realize that these will be the best years of my life—easily. Even if I’m successful after graduation, at no time will I lack the amount of responsibilities and be afforded the freedoms I have now. All the parties, girls, intoxicants I’ve polluted my body with and all the hard work I put in; I will never forget. It was a great ride that I will cherish.
Another benefit of partying is the networking. Don’t be a wallflower at every party you go to; mingle and be interactive. You never know who you might meet at a party. You could be staring at your collaborative partner for a project that could bring you both millions. It’s always a good idea to show your face at places because it builds familiarity—just because you are seen doesn’t mean you have to be heard though.
My biggest quam with people in academia is that they behave as if there is no social interactivity in life. Being social is an artform in itself and should be considered as a college course (seriously). Students who have good people skills, communication skills and is generally well liked will be more successful than most of their peers who have excellent grades. People like likable people— not educated book worms so much.
The stress of being your family’s cash cow should allow you to party and “get it in” every once in a while. I found that people put more energy into things when they are able to balance work and play; if you work, then you should play hard.